There is no other place more frustrating than an intimate relationship in which you are always the one who sacrifices your feelings, your emotions, your desires, your needs, your desires to be in favor of the other person. You continue to understand them, while you continue to put your feelings on the back burner. After a while, it will be exhausting to always be the one tending to someone else’s feelings. Do you feel like you are the one who constantly gives and gives and gives and gives a little more to the other person without receiving anything in kind?
While it is true that each person shares in their own way, however, a good indicator of how much each person is giving is if you feel exhausted and feel like you have nothing more to give. You feel exhausted, you feel taken advantage of, and you feel like you don’t matter, that you’re just there to serve the other person.
Most likely, you have forgotten your own existence in this whole affair. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve done something bad yourself. Maybe you’ve always been the understanding one. You continue to understand what the other person is going through, why you selflessly became that person, thus leaving yourself aside. You probably didn’t want to feel like you were being selfish by thinking only of yourself. However, while you were being selflessly for that person, that person was being selfishly only for themselves and not for you at all.
It’s time to regain your sanity, self respect, self love and pride. If you find that you are always taking care of someone else while they only care about themselves, then it is time to get away from that person and start taking care of yourself. While there is nothing wrong with being for others, we must always remember that our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual selves are just as important, so we must pay attention to ourselves as well, if not more.
A selfless person will always be attracted to a selfish person. Because? Because they are the same. How come you may ask? Well, a person who is being selfless is actually being selfish. They are being selfish to themselves just like the selfish person is being selfish only to themselves. Please don’t be confused. If we have not learned how to be to ourselves, how to care for our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being first, then we will find ourselves feeling exhausted and feeling resentful of those for whom we are being self-sufficient. less.
In order to truly be selflessly for others, we need to strengthen ourselves emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Only when we are fully charged within ourselves can we truly serve others unconditionally. We can then step away from a position of inner strength and power to be for others. That doesn’t mean that no one should take advantage of your selfless nature. Your personal and intimate relationships should be a place of deep intimacy, deep exchange, open communication, without emotional manipulation, deep and sincere love. If your intimate relationship is anything less than that, then that is not a safe or healthy place for you.
Truth be told, those you’re always serving have every right to be selfish. You’re already there doing everything for them, taking care of them, so it’s no wonder they’re being selfish. They love to be served and who would refuse to be served. It is said that you cannot change a person’s actions, but you can change his reaction.
Personally, I prefer another interpretation of that statement: “You can’t change a person’s actions, but you sure can change your actions.” If you find yourself feeling drained, resentful, angry about how much of yourself you’re sacrificing for that other person, you’ll find that you’re the one constantly understanding them, waiting for them as they go about their lives. , ignoring you, then it’s time to get your life back. It’s time to start serving you.
It’s time to stop sacrificing your well-being, your life and your future for someone who only cares about himself. If you find that you are always the one serving other people and you are being taken advantage of, then stop. Yes, yes, I know you can’t stop right away, cold turkey. However, once you become aware of what you have been doing, you can now take steps to move away from the person who is being selfish and begin to focus on your own well-being.
You have the right to change anything in your life that doesn’t make you happy. If you always feel exhausted, then it’s time to reposition your life compass so that it starts turning in the direction of your North Star. Maybe it’s time to divert your attention from that person and start creating your exciting life. It’s time to move your life forward. You deserve a happy and beautiful life just like anyone else. It’s your birthright, so don’t sell your birthright.
If you are constantly attending to another person, you are always giving, giving and giving, and they are taking, taking and taking, you are selling your birthright. Not only is that person not for you in the short or long term, but you are giving someone else your happiness, your life while leaving yourself with nothing. Take back your happiness, take back your life. When the time is right, in Divine timing, the Universe will send someone into your life who will take your hand and say: “Let’s Walk Together”. ~Here are the starlit beach walks!~ 🙂
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