If you want to achieve true happiness, you must be willing to accept the world you live in and your role in the events of your life. Interestingly, people have an uncanny ability to rewrite history to better fit their own personal frame of reference. Some have the ability to rationalize events in the sequence of a particular event and reconstitute these events into the outcome that best suits their personal reference of what was perceived to have happened or what (innately) the individual wanted. happen.
This approach is diametrically opposed to Article I of the Constitution of Intent. The liar will often promote a false story of historic proportions to protect the idea, belief, or reputation that this individual has worked to fabricate for himself. In a further violation of the article, sharing only half the facts in a story does not meet the personal goal of an honorable existence and promotes a false assumption of character and conduct. Violating Article I is a direct violation of the building of public and personal confidence. The liar avoids this article simply by omitting parts of the narrative or story to prop up the lie. As a direct result of the liar’s omission, the story now seems to have a purpose and a merit. Easy. Easy. Designed by experts. Now, the story is no longer a lie; that is, from the liar’s point of view.
Regardless of the omission of the facts, it remains a lie. A half story does not promote validity. It only works to shore up a lie by burying the true events of other details under a mountain of carefully selected reasonable and credible facts. Never rule out that the remaining facts may also be imperceptions of reality and thus deepen the gravity of the lie by distorting the facts surrounding an event and repackaging those “facts” as a lie. Never underestimate the goals of a liar. Consider this perspective as an additional mental troublemaker: what if (subconsciously) the liar was working to promote or toward a counterproductive outcome? What if this person not only omitted the facts that support the arguments against, but also reinvented the story of the remaining facts to undermine and destroy the expected outcome in its entirety? It sounds amazing, I know. Unfortunately, you will find that some people just like to “watch the world burn.” Deep in the sick psyche of someone who wants to be at the epicenter of attention, the liar works to dismantle the world around him. This person’s subconscious is deviant and works to interrupt or destroy good things so that others do not experience happiness; misery often enjoys company.
The liar never owns his own bad behaviors or assumes personal responsibility. Therefore, it is in this character flaw that he or she must omit certain parts of a story and reverse redesign the circumstances to blame and / or blame more on another party or parties, thus reconciling the liar’s misbehavior or misconduct. and give meaning, purpose and validity to that misconduct. Again, this is a direct violation of honorable conduct between people.
In these cases, whoever is unwilling or unable to accept their own personal faults or their role in an action, or who prefers to believe their own half of the story to reconcile this Cognitive Dissonance, is surely living in a false and conceived imaginary reality. This conduct also generates a charge for violating Article VIII – Existence Rooted in Humility. It is always honorable to own your own behaviors and wait to be corrected.
To better understand the lack of quotation from all sides of an argument by the liar, we need to define and discuss dissonance for a moment.
Cognitive dissonance is the feeling of uncomfortable tension that comes from having two conflicting thoughts in mind at the same time. These uncomfortable feelings come from having to deal with reality events and how it conflicts with our own personal perception of events when such events contradict our beliefs, values, ethics, or our own ability to recognize our own personal inequalities.
Dissonance increases with:
• The importance of the subject for us
• How strongly dissonant thoughts conflict with each other
• Our inability to rationalize and explain the conflict.
Dissonance is often strong when we believe something about ourselves and then do something against that belief. Discomfort is often felt as a tension between the two opposing thoughts. To release tension, we can perform one of three actions:
• Change our behavior
• Justify our behavior by changing conflicting cognition
• Justify our behavior by adding new cognitions
Dissonance is most powerful when it comes to our own personal image, how we see ourselves in the world, and how others see us. Having worked in the fitness industry for over 20 years, I can feel feelings of insecurity and self-misperception in people’s statements, suggestive actions, and behavior. I can often identify these feelings in people through casual conversation. Such discussions describe the changing habits and behaviors that promote feelings of good health and well-being. Simply denying one’s belief systems regarding fitness, exercise, and eating can be interpreted as a personal attack. In most cases of people I meet and just below the surface in places that the person is afraid to go, one can identify those who are victims of their own dissonance. Generally, people who are easily moved and personally uncomfortable with their feelings and moral compass in decision-making often identify with this dissonance, but do not discuss it or resolve conflicts easily.
Dissonance increases with the importance and impact of the decision, along with the difficulty of reversing it. The discomfort of making the wrong decision to side with one in an argument is clearly greater than choosing a pair of pants that day. Therefore, when a decision gives way to a myriad of internalized personal conflicts, the probability of the dissonance itself increases exponentially and directly disproportionately to the rational mindset, emotional stability and ability to reason reality versus fantasy of the person. .
Some people view events NOT as they occurred, but more as they believe they occurred. This belief is so closely tied to the personal perception of the person and reinforced through the dissonance itself, that any fact or point of view that conflicts with this perspective is simply dismissed as falsehood, lies, exaggeration or manipulation of events. of a circumstance. The person prefers to believe their own story rather than allow another story to overwrite the first.
Therefore, for some, half the story is better than the whole truth:
• A liar’s inability to acknowledge his own personal faults makes this person feel better about the transgressions he has committed against others.
• The naive accept a liar and the reputation the liar has worked to create. Believing stories that invalidate a liar’s arguments exposes personal weaknesses in the follower and can lead to a contentious challenge with the liar. Therefore, a follower who does not claim to defend or support the truth must also live with his own character flaws to accept shameful behavior.
• The liar’s listener / follower falsely believes that he is absolved of sin by supporting a liar’s half-truths in the name of “loyalty.”
If you want to be truly happy:
• Must be willing to hear all the facts surrounding a series of events. You will need to find the strength within yourself to hear those things that you would rather not hear or would rather not believe about this person whom you can call “a friend” and accept the entire library of facts surrounding an event or circumstance. The truth is liberating.
• Emotional feelings cloud our judgment and prevent us from allowing all details to be equally evaluated and weighed. Leave your emotions at the door so that you can better assess each fact and conclude what the case is, not what you would like it to be.
• If you seek to live in a truly invalid world, you must eradicate from your life negative people who undermine and exercise illogical, immoral, unethical or selfish tendencies. To be truly happy, you must allow the whole story to be told and not try any of the accused until you have assembled your entire library of facts.
• Accept all the positives and negatives of a story to be told. Your mind knows the difference even if you don’t want to accept it.
• Accept what is true and do not analyze ideas within a story that will help you sleep better at night. What is is? The sooner you accept what is true, the sooner your brain will resign itself to accepting what sometimes cannot be believed.