For many, it’s not enough to give a best man speech for the sake of it, especially if you know many of the audience members personally. To give great best man speeches, it is important that your speech is memorable and meaningful.
Elements of a great speech
Great best man speeches are memorable because they strike a personal note with the audience and are delivered in an engaging manner. It is also beneficial if the speech is entertaining, if possible making the audience laugh. However, it is important that the humor that is used is not at the expense of anyone else. Make sure you have everyone’s full attention before you start your speech, and speak loud and clear enough for everyone to hear. Start with sincere comments of welcome, include a bit of humor in the middle, and end with a congratulatory note. Remember that quality is better than quantity. If you focus on good quality content, your speech won’t have to be very long for you to get it right. Try to make eye contact with as many people as possible, especially when you’re telling a personal story. Remember to show some emotional expression, for example, smile when talking about something funny or give a soft expression when reminiscing. It is also helpful to check with the groom when preparing his speech if there are overlapping anecdotes in the best man’s speech and the groom’s speech.
Definitive No-Nos in a Best Man Speech
For delivering great best man speeches, it’s crucial that you’re not drunk. It is also important that your speech does not contain embarrassing anecdotes or stories that have been shared with you in confidence. After all, you don’t want to reveal any questionable secrets to the bride on her wedding day, and you certainly don’t want to embarrass the groom. Even if you are used to using profanity in everyday language, try to avoid using vulgar language to express yourself. Try not to read directly from his notes, as this will make him less likable. Do not attribute quotes to sources you are unsure of, and be sure of your facts before making any definitive statements. Although, as the best man, the groom is the main focus of your feelings, be careful not to completely ignore the bride.
When preparing and delivering a great best man speech, it’s important to be sincere and well prepared to build confidence in yourself when you’re speaking. It’s helpful to prepare your speech well in advance of the wedding and practice it in front of someone you trust who knows the groom, then consider any valuable feedback to get your speech in tip-top shape.