When you discover that your husband is cheating on you or looking for a relationship with another woman, a feeling of anguish can immediately arise within you.
There are many nuances and styles of affairs, including:
* an active crush with a lot of flirtation
* an emotional adventure, not a sexual one
* a one night stand
* a full-fledged and ongoing sexual and emotional relationship
What hurts even more is that you may suspect or even have proof of who the other woman is. Maybe you even know her. She could be a co-worker of yours that you met at a party. Or it could be a neighbor, a church member, an old friend, or a llama of yours.
In dealing with all these emotions that come up as a result of what you discovered about your husband’s affair, one of your first instincts is probably to find a way to keep her away from your husband.
If your husband is being persecuted or has a romantic relationship with another woman, here are 5 tips on how to get a woman to leave her husband alone:
1. If you live in certain US states, you can tell about the “alienation of affection” law:
The first tactic you might consider to eliminate this nuisance from your family’s business is legal. There is a class of laws referred to in legal jargon as “alienation of affection.” If it can be proven applicable in her case, the woman could be liable for fines of hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Please note that at the time of writing, these laws only applied in the states of North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, Utah, Hawaii, and Illinois.
2. However, the legal route is probably not the most effective:
Even in those few states where alienation laws are on the books, these laws are not invoked very often, making them potentially impractical to enforce in many adultery cases.
3. Consider calling her or sending her a letter to let her know you know what’s going on:
Another option that may be easier for everyone involved and that could help you move on with your life more quickly: contact the other woman by visiting, calling, or sending her a letter. Let her know that you are aware of what she is up to and that you would like her to be away from her husband forever.
However, a possible downside to this option is that if you somehow have incorrect data and she is not actually having an affair with her husband, she could be exposing herself to liability for a charge of personal harassment. Not only that, but you have to consider this: You really don’t know who this woman is. If she’s a little crazy or not quite, you could be opening up a “fatal attraction” type of situation. That wouldn’t be pretty.
4. Appeal to your best nature by letting her know all the pain and suffering that you are a part of:
However, another approach you could try is to politely arrange a meeting with the woman (as long as you are sure you have the correct facts – see point 3 above) and simply ask her to stop seeing you. Appeal to your good side by expressing how much harm you are doing to your family.
5. Your best point of influence is with your husband:
There is a downside to all the solutions mentioned, even when they are successful: getting the other woman to stop cheating on her husband does not solve the root of the problem, which is this fact: her husband made a conscious decision to cheat on you. By addressing only the role of the other woman in the situation, what will stop you from doing it over and over again? You must work with your husband to end not only this matter, but also his desire to participate in future affairs.
Consider these 5 tips for ending your husband’s affair with another woman.