Resume:
This document was the result of a request by a Fortune 100 company for a presentation to employees who were on final warnings for sexual harassment (but too valuable for the company to pass up). The first approach was educational, but in later discussions with HR it evolved into a mental health view of who bullies and what happens to their victims as a way of behavior change and hopefully better conduct later in their positions. of authority, power, or character. Here I lay out the main outline of the presentation and the afterthoughts.
Introduction:
Sexual harassment is an ongoing topic of discussion that highlights the dangers of predators in the workplace looking for victims to exploit. Harassment can take the form of sexual violence, verbal violence, impotence, and other situational circumstances against employees of both sexes. This can have an adverse effect on people’s employment status, performance and create a hostile and intimidating work environment.
In many countries, the law on bullying is not consistent or clear to many victims. Police attitudes toward sexuality color their attitude toward whistleblowers. Fear of losing face, shame and the consequences of a complaint make most women refuse to report and continue to suffer. Although in various surveys from 1991 to 1998 the level of reported harassment fell, this changed after 2016 when the MeToo#.com campaign to openly name and shame members of the film industry initially and then other areas of employment increased dramatically. complaints, but also many outside the statute of limitations. However, this also increased false claims and the advancement of those seeking the spotlight and publicity (often from failed actresses with a grudge, for example). Survey figures are generally unreliable, either due to excessive information, sensationalism, or invalidity in the lack of randomization of a given population.
So who is bullied? The targets are often female with a male perpetrator, the target has less power, the behavior is repeated, the target’s repeated requests to stop, and the organization’s policy is soft on predators. Other targets may be color, alternative sexuality, disability, and socioeconomic dependency.
Moral dilemma and perception：
When is a compliment bullying? If a large proportion of married couples and long-term partners meet at work, how can we avoid normal human attraction? How we accept care often depends on your personal history. Being a victim of abuse in the past, unhappy relationships may view flirting as a threat, while another developmentally happy person might appreciate the attention and enjoy the moment. In many radical cultures and religions, women are still seen as the property of men, second-class citizens, and serving the needs of men. They have no rights. Cultures, which often include those with a tradition of FACE, never report harassment lest they embarrass their family or lose face with friends: men in such societies have more power over female employees who they know won’t report them.
Therefore, HR departments need to look more openly at prevention and protection. Companies need clear harassment statements based on the realities of their people. If you are a victim, there must be a clear reporting system that maintains confidentiality. Both the accuser and the accused have the same rights (beware of manipulation). Human resources should follow the wishes of the victim, not company policy. HR should not protect the company or senior executives as the first priority. In fact, HR staff should face criminal charges for putting the interests of companies first.
The presentation:
Daily:
Explore what type of person sexually and mentally affects another in a corporate environment.
To explain victimization: why do some employees become victims? Why do they submit to harassment and few even file a complaint? What treatment options and remedies exist for both predators and victims of bullying?
The Haunter – Type One
Usually in a position of authority over the victim. He thinks the consequences are unlikely. Use coercion – implied or real threats. Offer gifts, support, promises, and protection. It creates a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness in the victim.
Personality: assertive, aggressive, controlling, critical. Authority figure – must be obeyed. He feels that they deserve respect and complacency. Lack of empathy: there is no mercy for the victim. Once satisfied, it loses interest in the victim and moves on to the next target.
The Haunter – Type Two
The Groomer, looks for vulnerable people, compliments that range from the casual to the most personal. Lunch, dinner invites – to listen – to help. It creates trust, obligation and dependency. The victim feels that there is no way out – take care of the persecutor – he owes them something.
Personality – Kind, affectionate, caring, listening, unafraid of consequences. It creates trust, obligation, warmth, reciprocity. He genuinely cares for the victim, seeking constant sexual favors, with no strings attached outside of work. There is no empathy for the position of the victims.
victim of type one
Subservient, insecure, fear of reprisals. Forced to keep the secret, he feels an obligation. Flattered by the interest of an authority figure. Special place in the office, factory, group, team. Social Comparison: I’m not good enough, others are better than me.
Victim Damage Type One
Consequences – loss of face – feels victimized. PTSD – flashbacks, panic attacks. Attitude changes – Don’t be close – Don’t be you. Long-term mental health problems in both relationships and sex. 80% leave the job within two years.
victim of type two
Vulnerable – shy – needy – attention seeking. Shares problems, seeks a listener, wants attention, likes praise and flattery. Respond to flirtations as humor. Trapped by obligation: you feel you owe something, you need to pay a price.
Victim Damage Type Two
Loss of confidence. Ambiguity about your part in the abuse. Feelings of guilt and guilt. Attitude changes – I had it coming. Don’t be close. Most likely, you will become a victim again. Long-term mental health issues on self-esteem. Leave work as quickly as possible. Financial loss and support benefits.
Persecutor Treatment / Action Plan:
Counseling – Type One
Resistant to change: Takes longer to accept responsibility. Cognitive-behavioral therapy to confront past behaviors. Educational approach with transactional analysis – dramatic triangle, etc. Acceptance of future loss of position and income.
Counseling – Type Two
Facing the selfish need to manipulate others. Examine your sexuality and drive to express your need to conform to be accepted in a real relationship. Going from a state of Child to an Adult state of action in daily functioning.
Treatment of victims / Plan of action:
Counseling – Type One
Relive trauma through supported listening and insightful interaction. Recognize that you are a victim of an act but not be a victim for life. Do not transfer positive emotions to negative feelings. Re-learn to trust: be open, honest and authentic in the future.
Counseling – Type Two
Accept that I was an innocent victim. Let them groom themselves and raise their self-esteem. To address their own vulnerability that made them a target in the first place. Do not reject future genuine relationships.
A word about legality:
Consequences:
Type One – Public dishonor – prison time – loss of family – loss of face and income. Blame the victim for her dilemma.
Type two: public exposure, loss of recognition, prison time, self-blame, more likely to reoffend.
A word about witnesses
attitude:
Men think: sympathy for the persecutors as victims too. Perceives victims as playing the victim.
Women think: they asked to be victims, no sympathy, just empathy from other victims. She played the game and got burned.
End of the presentation
Summer:
This presentation was designed for one hour to a small group of inmates. The idea is that they assume their responsibility in the act of abuse and that they accept that they need treatment, as well as the understanding that their bullying has long-term damage to the mental health of their victims. This then as a first step to a complete treatment plan under the guidance of a clinical psychologist. Both individual therapy and group recognition have a role to play in treatment options. Counseling for victims is more common, as they themselves seek help for their emotional turmoil. Persecutors of bullying are more likely to avoid treatment, as in many cases they are convinced that they are minimizing the harm suffered by victims.
References:
Myler SF (2006 – 2019) Clinical case files. Types of Persecutor/Victim in Harassment (original work).
CNN/Time Poll (1991 – 1998)
DOD Survey (1988 – 1995)
Martin G (2018) Linked Post – Cupid’s Arrow Will Hit At Work So Embrace It!
Note：references are not linked in the text as this would take the focus away from the content. Much of the background research was done under confidential circumstances, so it is not acknowledged in the text. Thanks for your understanding.