Moving on after a breakup is always hard, but it can be excruciating if you have to worry about moving on after a breakup with someone you’ll still see at work every day. The period of reflection in which you have the right to cry into your pillow and wonder endlessly what they are doing and who they are seeing is interrupted because you will probably know very well what they are doing and who they are seeing.
Consider a few tips that can make moving on from a breakup with a co-worker a little easier to survive.
1. Moving on after a breakup with a co-worker can be even more difficult if you have other people taking it upon themselves to fill you in on everything your ex does or says. Politely tell these people that you are trying to move on from the relationship and that you no longer care to know everything about your ex. Often what these people report will be hurtful comments that your ex may be making about you, and moving on after a breakup is much easier if you don’t focus on your ex all day, every day.
2. If you can move to a different department or area of work without taking a pay cut, consider applying. Working in close proximity can make moving on after a breakup nearly impossible, since you have to look at them and possibly even talk to them every day. It puts your focus on the relationship at a time when you really need to focus on getting your life in order and moving on.
3. Just as moving on after a breakup is easier if you silence the little middleman who wants to pass on the dirty things your ex may be saying, it’s equally important that you don’t ask mutual friends or other co-workers who your ex is. Dated. You don’t even need to know if they’re dating someone else, and if the ex brings them into the office, you can bet they’re doing it just to let you know they’ve moved on. It is very likely that the only reason they would bring another person into the office is to make him jealous, possibly so that he would want them back. So stop asking others if the ex has someone new. It will be easier for you to move on after a breakup if you don’t know the details of your ex’s life.