“If she thinks you love her too much, you’re going to lose your influence.” – Carlos Xuma
Movies and friends have led us to believe that if you’re interested in a girl, you have to DESPERATELY pursue her, take her out to expensive dinners, buy her things, and spend tons of money on her to impress her and get her interested. in you.
Sure, that might work on a gold prospector who just wants your money.
But that’s not the way to attract the “perfect” girl for you.
Because?
Because, not only do you appear needy and desperate, but when a woman knows that she already has your interest, it increases her value and power.
Okay, so you know you SHOULD NOT spend a lot of money on a girl or desperately chase her for her affections…
So how do you attract a girl to you and make her chase you?
be a challenge
One of the best ways to get women or girls to chase you is to be a challenge.
What this means is that instead of calling a girl all the time and being too available… acting as an excuse not to offend a girl… buying things for a girl to please her… and doing all the nonsense in the hope that a girl likes you… DO THE OPPOSITE.
Don’t be a hopeless romantic or show too much interest. Instead, strive to exhibit attractive MALE mannerisms and behaviors to attract her to you.
In simple words, make girls chase you by virtue of your attractive personality. I mean, make her have fun with you, including her mini dates with her. Have emotionally relevant conversations with her. Be funny and make her laugh, show confidence and dominance, etc…
…but DON’T chase after her desperately like most guys.
Stand out attractively
You see, attractive women or pretty girls are used to being desperately chased by guys. But if you are indifferent to a woman, you give her the impression that you are the prize and therefore YOU ARE the one worth pursuing.
This makes you valuable and satisfying to her.
But understand this: you don’t want to act too SELELFUL. Because when there is no interest on your part, the woman will not feel the need to pursue you.
So what I recommend is that you express your desire. Let her know that she finds her attractive and that she is not afraid to make a move. Here, you will have a mini-date with her, flirt with her, pay attention to her, etc.
But don’t chase her DESPERATELY.
SUBTLY show interest, but leave her guessing and wondering if you’re interested in her or not.
Let her know that you have options and that you can leave at any time. Especially when she’s acting up or playing hard to get.
That’s when the CHASE begins.
If you successfully create attraction and act like you are not interested in her, she will be obsessed with you and intent on getting you. Because, not only are you NOT desperately pursuing her like most men, but you embody the personality traits that make you attractive: fun, self-confidence, humor, dominance, etc.
Conclusion: How to be a challenge
When you initially meet an attractive woman, you want her to get the impression that you’re not like the other guys she meets. So don’t come up with a compliment or a hint.
Don’t put a woman on a pedestal. Don’t kiss a woman’s butt or do things to please her. Including buying her things to win her affections.
Don’t brag or show off to impress a woman. This communicates to him that you are insecure and needy.
Don’t put up with a woman’s nonsense. Disagree with her when she is wrong. And learn to disappoint or say “no”, that means, do things for a girl because you want to and not because she asks you to.
And since you act indifferent to a woman, show your manly qualities… eg, show self-confidence, dominance, assertiveness, etc.
You should also tease her or playfully tease her to let her know that you’re not like the guys she’s used to dealing with.
When you nonverbally communicate to a woman that you are the prize, and therefore have to work for her affection, you will increase your attractiveness. And she’ll be the one chasing you instead of her.
So, in conclusion… when you meet an attractive woman, act like you’re not really interested in her, but do your best to attract her to you by exhibiting attractive MALE mannerisms and behaviors.