“Bad boys” make the best lovers. The idea of ”bad boys” turns girls and women on just like “mean girls” turns you on. While you think of a curvy girl ready to act on her burning carnal desires, your wife has in her imagination a big guy who knows how to dominate a woman well beyond beginner bondage.
But if she’s a shy and submissive girl, she won’t tell you those fantasies just like you won’t tell her the dirty things on YOUR mind during intimate moments together. To be fair, as a shy and submissive wife, she may even hide the details of her fantasies from herself. Her parents probably trained her the way you would train your own daughters: be respectable, be quiet, be NICE. Good?
You wouldn’t want a tough, sexually hyperactive biker for a wife. And your submissive girl doesn’t want a brute for a husband.
But you want more sizzle.
If he could say it out loud, he also wants more sizzle. And the steak.
Most men try to get more sex in two basic ways.
One way is to simply make demands on your wife. As you probably know from bitter experience, simply asking for sex is not a way that works with a woman whose sexual training has consisted of ignoring her own sexual needs and desires. She is likely to feel pressured and “bad.”
Another way to try to have more sex is to gently suggest and hint. Sometimes this can be building up the romance. In the man’s mind, romance is like foreplay: you win her over with flowers, dinner and a walk in the moonlight and she treats you to a night of good sex. Of course, for a submissive woman romance IS as far as she can imagine. Her parents and her society have long trained her to AVOID thinking about any heartbeat between her legs, so she likes romance for its own sake! You lose. At other times, hints and hints can be suggestive touches and comments that would get him going if she did them to you. But then again, if her sexual training has been to suppress her desires, she’ll think you’re being a pain in the ass or just plain rude.
But there is another way to get the sex you need: learn how to train a submissive woman.
The things you can do in training are much like you would do in training a child or an athlete: pick your small target, push him to the goal, reward him emotionally and physically. Then set the bar higher. When you train your submissive wife, you are also training yourself in how to sexually dominate your wife. Sure there should be some basic bondage for beginners. But these are all great things that can come next. The simple truth is that you don’t need to master bondage, domination, sadomasochism, or slave training to sexually dominate your wife.
In the short term, what you need to do is find ways to get your submissive wife to express her wishes to you without having to put them into words. Then you can take her step by step towards the realization of her unreported fantasies. Each of these are small steps that she must take and the thrill that she will get from living out those unreported fantasies will be a great reward every time.
When you have sex with your wife in the so-called “missionary position” (she is on her back and you are on your back), how often do you place your hands on top of your head? Putting your hands there is not to get them out of the way. She has a fantasy in her mind of being controlled, perhaps her wrists being held by the man holding her, or perhaps her hands are tied so she can’t resist. If you wanted to explore bondage for beginners, that would be a good way to start: a silk scarf or even a smock belt, no fancy knots, just something wrapped around her wrists (not too tight to scare her!) and note the expression. on his face and feel the sudden surge of his emotion!
Just do that and you will have taken your first step towards being her “Fantasy Brute” who can fill her nights with the passion and desire she secretly craves.