Many people don’t understand the depth of loss that occurs when a pet dies. Because support may not come naturally to you, you may want to consider more proactive approaches to taking care of yourself. While we think of emotions first when it comes to grief, a more holistic approach can be helpful. Whether your pet recently died or it’s been a while, try to take care of yourself emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. You took loving care of your pet. Now honor your pet by taking care of yourself.
emotionally
- allow yourself to cry Tears can help take away pain and pave the way for healing.
- Take some time for yourself, whether it’s a “mental health” or bereavement day away from work or quiet time from your routine at home.
- Share your news and sorrows with caring people. Calls or emails about your loss help others learn about this important event and can naturally be supportive. Know that not everyone will understand your complaint about your beloved animal companion, but those who do will make it worth sharing.
- Call a pet bereavement counselor or join a pet loss support group. You can do this online at petloss.net or aplb.org. They both have excellent information to help with healing.
- Listen to special music, take a bubble bath or enjoy a special meal.
- Write, paint, dance, weave or work with wood: any creative and constructive activity that can help you cope or bring some joy back into your life.
Mentally
- Increase your understanding of pet loss by going online to the websites listed above or going to a local bookstore for pet loss support.
- Read poems and writings about pet loss to help you know that grievance is universal.
- Use the resources on the website to gain a sense of understanding and community.
- Use affirmations to reframe any guilt you may have regarding the loss.
- Plan changes to your old routine so you don’t always remember your loss.
Physically
- While a small treat can be a coping mechanism, try to make healthy choices and don’t overdo it.
- Try to get enough sleep, although your sleep may be interrupted for a while after the loss.
- While it’s okay to take time to bury your sorrows in bed, exercise can help you feel better.
- Be careful not to mask the pain with alcohol or drugs. This can delay or derail the grieving process. If you find yourself engaging in excessive substance use, you may need professional help.
spiritually
- Regardless of your beliefs, tap into a source of comfort in a way that aids your healing, whether it be religious writings, philosophical readings, or communing with nature.
- Attend worship services or spiritual gatherings that speak to you.
It is important to take care of yourself during this difficult time of loss. Use whatever method works for you and remember that it takes time to heal.