I’m glad you asked
As a wife, you have the opportunity to give your husband incredible pleasure, keep his heart towards you and protect his mind from wandering. Yes, each of them is not your responsibility per se, but you can help him a lot in each area through amazing oral sex. I am very glad that you want to learn about oral sex because there are many benefits that your marriage will greatly support by mastering this skill. Below I share some details about an oral and personal history to illustrate the points.
He loves it
First, why should you have oral sex? Your husband loves it. He craves the way your mouth feels on his member. It is a pleasure like no other. The sensations that your mouth provides together with your peculiar hand, face and lips are truly impressive. He also gets a chance to relax without any performance pressure in the bedroom, and men need that sometimes.
You’ll love it, eventually
The first step to becoming comfortable with something is to learn about it. Then practice it. It probably won’t be automatic for you to feel comfortable. (Certainly not for me!) In fact, it will most likely require you to study and learn how your body works and how best to work it. Having said that, having a good mind is the most important part. The main attitude that you should adopt is to delight yourself with your member. Just as the wife in Song of Songs 2:3 said of her husband, “I delight to sit in her shade, and her fruit is sweet to my taste,” you should delight in her member. His member is very important to him. You really have no idea how significant he feels about what he has between his legs. As you determine to want and love the person from him, you will become more attracted and seduced by him. As you see how much oral sex with him means to your husband, you’ll want to try it more and more.
Start with your preparation
Being confident is not about lacking insecurities. Sure, it’s important to work through them. But, many times, our thoughts throughout the day significantly impact how sensual we feel at night. If you let your mind compare your body to those supermodels, you won’t feel spunky and sexy at night. Even though her husband desperately wants to see and enjoy her body. Right before you make love (oral or otherwise), get in the mentality to be with your husband. He longs to see you and touch you intimately. Also, a confident woman is so much sexier than an insecure one!
Better to give than receive
Realize when you are going to give him a blowjob, you are giving him a gift that you enjoy. This is not a chore, a “job” or a favor. You want to drive him crazy with pleasure, right? If that’s the case, then (slowly but surely) you’ll have to convince him that you want to stalk him. I mean really, do you. If he has made mistakes in the past, that’s fine, but apologies are needed. He thinks for a second if the roles were reversed. I bet you wouldn’t let him anywhere near your precious lady areas if there was even a hint of negativity coming from him (and you shouldn’t). Put your head in order: you can’t wait to give him pleasure, because he is also pleasurable for you.
draw your mind
I always suggest that you give the event anticipation. This is great because you’re both waiting for something special and it breaks up any of those awkward “well how do we start?” feelings. If you’ve established in advance that you’re going to give him a “treat” that night via text, for example, you come home excited and expectant.
seduction is key
Remember, your husband wants to be seduced by your attractive body. He loves to see you in lingerie (or without it). He is very attracted to your shape and you are able to give him spectacular views during oral sex.
four stages of oral
The four stages of your husband’s orgasm begin with Desire. It all starts in his mind. Then move on to the Arousal and Fun Start which is all about taunts and random touches. Then we get to the Build Rhythm and Momentum stage, in which he introduces full stroking/sucking techniques. Finally, you progress from the previous stage to Rapid Pressure to Orgasm, which builds in speed and intensity until the wonderful finale. Basically, you want to be building the orgasm from one stage to the next. I would like to give a short story to illustrate each stage and how the whole process can be understood in context.
ask her
Do not forget that your husband is not like any other man. Sure, there’s a lot you’ll share with others (namely, your glans, especially the frenulum, are the most sensitive parts of your penis), but you might not like having your testicles tickled like other men actually do. . As you learn more about his particular tastes, you can experiment and find out what he really likes. Ask him. Don’t discount the fact that he knows what he likes and he’ll gladly share it with you if you ask boldly. He can positively hate something, but he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, so he puts up with it. He just asks.
I would suggest asking in one of two ways. 1) After the experience, ask him what he especially liked. This will give you many valuable ideas. 2) Ask him if he would be willing to have an “Oral Coaching Session” with you. During this, you can slowly go through all his sensitive areas, discover and practice what he really enjoys. Eventually, you will want to bring him to orgasm; otherwise you could get frustrated. The training session could feel like a very long “taunt fest,” and that’s probably too much for him.
I am grateful that you want to learn about oral sex, because it will be a wonderful addition to your marriage bed. You can make him fall in love with you over and over again, every time.