in this short Male Chastity FAQ I want to cover the top 7 questions I get asked over and over again by readers of my blog and Free Guide.
There’s a batch More lifestyle-wise, of course, but in my experience, the answers to these seven questions will help you get started on this delicious way of life without making some of the fundamental and easy-to-avoid mistakes that many couples make.
1. My husband has confessed to me his desire to be locked up. Has he lost his mind?!
No. Well, he may have, but if so, it has nothing to do with what he just asked you to do! Male chastity and male orgasm denial are surprisingly common fantasies among men, for reasons anyone who doesn’t know Share that fantasy could never understand.
But that’s okay. We don’t have to understand it, because we can simply enjoy the benefits (more on this later in this male chastity FAQ).
For now, suffice it to say that it’s a common fantasy, and as long as your relationship is fundamentally sound, it will almost certainly bring you a lot of pleasure. Y it has the potential to improve your entire relationship and other areas of your life.
2. Does the desire for male chastity and orgasm denial mean my husband is a closet submissive?
Noel May be submissive, of course, but that doesn’t necessarily stem from her wanting to hand over control of her orgasms to you.
Most men want to improve their relationships and sex life (we all know it can get a bit stale and boring over time, right? It’s no one’s fault and it’s just human nature. Male chastity and Male orgasm denial are just one way to make things better because it tends to change the relationship dynamic to how it was when you were first together.
Of all the things that can be gleaned from these male chastity FAQs, this is perhaps the second most important.
Plus even if your man it is submissive, male submission lies on a continuum and is not a simple case of one or the other. Many, in fact most, men want to be submissive only in the bedroom and don’t want all the extreme “female domination” scenarios you may have heard of.
3. Will male chastity fix my relationship?
Probably not. Not by itself, anyway.
If the myth above was the most important to dispel in this male chastity FAQ, then this is number 1!
If your relationship isn’t fundamentally sound, if you don’t make love because you can’t stand each other and not because you just kicked the habit, then the overwhelming probability is that male chastity and male orgasm denial are going to end. make it much, much worse.
It’s not what you wanted to hear, I know… but it’s the truth.
4. Should I buy a device, lock myself up and just give my wife the keys?
Well, it’s your call, but I think this is a very, very, very stupid thing to do.
First of all, you’ve probably had this fantasy for years. She, however, has probably never heard of it. if you throw something like this at her without warning, then she might really think you’ve gone crazy.
To her, you are suggesting something that, from her perspective, could mean a fundamental change in your relationship. She will need time to think it over and adjust, assuming she is willing to play.
Bottom line: you have to talk about it like an adult. Yes, I know you want an easy, simple, and comfortable answer, but this is a male chastity FAQ and is meant to answer your questions and provide good advice, not to approve silly ideas.
5. My wife is not interested. How can I get her to do this?
You can’t. And you shouldn’t even try.
The way to get someone to do it, and this applies to both men and women, is to SHOW THEM, not just TELL THEM about the benefits THEY will experience.
It’s beyond the scope of this male chastity FAQ to go into detail here, but if you do it all about YOU – “I want I want I want…Then you probably won’t understand. Male chastity and male orgasm denial are hard work for both of us.
It is No almost any of you – it’s a two-way street.
6. Do we need a device to play male chastity and male orgasm denial?
If you think you do… then you probably do; but, if you think not… then you don’t.
Many couples use the “Honor” system very successfully (including John and I on many occasions).
If it works for both, there is your answer.
If not… well… find out.
There are no rules about it: male chastity is a consensual lifestyle choice and there is no rule book that says what is and is not “acceptable.”
And the last question in this FAQ about male chastity…
7. What is the best male chastity device for me or my husband?
The short answer is that I don’t know.
It’s a bit like asking which is the better type of car… a Land Rover or a Rolls Royce?
So the long answer is… it depends.
If you want to drive off-road and wade through deep rivers, then a Land Rover would be a better choice than a Rolls; but if you’re looking for luxury transportation to impress a VIP, you’re probably better off choosing a Rolls.
Not only that, but different men’s bodies react in different ways to the same devices. John found the CB3000 useless, because it was so uncomfortable and worst of all, it didn’t stop him from masturbating to orgasm. But I know of at least one guy who finds the CB3000 comfortable and effective to wear virtually 24/7.
Another device John had was a beautiful piece of work, but it just made him swell with edema. There is no fault with the device, the quality or the manufacturer itself. It just didn’t follow John’s body.
And then there are the steel chastity belts, like the Tollyboy (which John has), the Neosteel, and the Latowski, to name just three.
Each has its pros and cons, which I won’t go into in this male chastity FAQ.
In general, I think it’s safe to say that a full belt tends to be more secure than a simple device, but belts are also more expensive, in general.
Ultimately though, you won’t know what works for you unless you try something. It probably makes sense to start (relatively) cheap and simple with, say, something like a CB3000 and then see how it works.
If it does what you want it to do, then that’s fine; if not, you may have to think again.
In short: trial and error. There is no other way.
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