It took me a long time to find the answer to the question. “Why do boyfriends and girlfriends fight?” Finally, I received inspiration from my past. When I was 5 years old, my parents fought a lot. Being young and quite excited, they used to yell at each other at home or in the car. When I was a kid, their fights scared me. But when I became an adult, I realized that the reason they both fought so hard was because they were trying their best to be understood.
Every human being feels a deep need to be understood, especially by the people who matter to him. Since your boyfriend / girlfriend is important to you, the two of you fight because you each want to be understood, but lack the skills to communicate effectively with each other.
But how can my communication skills be lacking if I get along with my friends and / or family?
Even if you have wonderful relationships with the other people in your life, think about this: How long have you known your family? Is your boyfriend or girlfriend your friend or your partner? Since you and your boyfriend / girlfriend come from different backgrounds, it is inevitable that you both have different views on things. If the issue on which your views differ never comes up, there is no reason for the two of you to quarrel and disagree. But the more you get to know your boyfriend or girlfriend, the more chances there will be to disagree.
So when an event arises where the two of you disagree, how do you interact so as not to end up fighting?
The easiest way I have found to have harmony (after years of fighting with my boyfriend and my family) is to do everything possible to UNDERSTAND the other person first. When I have the option to explain myself or understand my boyfriend, I choose to understand him better. The way I do this is to read more about men. The reason I choose to understand men better through reading is because it gives me the results I want: a more loving and harmonious relationship with my boyfriend. Every time I understand men more, my heart not only opens more towards my boyfriend, but also appreciates how easy it is to be with me. As a result, he appreciates me more and gives me even more. This makes us both happy.
Don’t make the mistake of asking your boyfriend to explain.
There are two big reasons for this …
1. Most men can’t really explain why they behave that way.
2. Most men feel like you don’t trust them when you ask them to explain their behaviors.
I used to ask my (ex) boyfriends a lot of questions. They hated this and we often ended up fighting. Therefore, I recommend that you read and learn more from the relationship experts. Avoid irritating your boyfriend with too many questions because too many fights often lead to breakups.