How to have hypnotic body language

When I worked at a National Newspaper after leaving the University for the gold-paved streets of London, the receptionist for the entire newspaper was also a role model; At that stage in my life, I had never met anyone so attractive in real life. Every day I would come in and try to be nice, even try to be cool, and then I knew I had just made a fool of myself!

Why did I react that way to her? Why was it so successful? Do you ever respond to people with a lack of confidence? And what about those other people at my school? My friend knew almost nothing about them as people, he had never really heard them speak, yet their success was not a surprise to him …

They all had a certain air, that without even opening their mouths, all these people could have a hypnotic effect on those around them. It’s this hypnotic body language that I want to talk about today because it can help you achieve more and excel more without actually having to do much more than slightly alter your non-verbal communication. I would like to share with you 3 ways that are key to improving your own success.

3 keys to hypnotic nonverbal communication:

1- Genuine smiles and real laughs – I can remember when I was a kid, when my parents invited friends over for dinner, my mom always told me to make sure to smile and to show my teeth when smiling when the guests arrived (I was never cheeky enough as if to grunt while doing so, although I was tempted). My mother knew that, on an intuitive level, smiles produce positive reactions in people.

I am talking about a real and authentic smile here. A smile that has come from the depths of you and that expresses happiness. A natural smile produces wrinkles around the eyes and face, insincere people smile only with their mouths. Genuine smiles often come from your unconscious mind, people can feel, see and feel that they are real. A real smile means that you smile with your whole face: the muscles of the mouth move, the cheeks rise, the eyes wrinkle and the eyebrows sink slightly.

So smile more. In addition, he smiles with enthusiasm, fun and joy. It really smiles at the world.

The reason why photographers use ‘cheese’ is because to say that word you have to pull your facial muscles back, but it often gives an insincere smile. How many photos have you seen that show that smiles are fueled by cheese and not genuine?

There is some scientific evidence to support the widely used saying “when you smile, the world smiles with you.”

Professor Ruth Campbell from University College London states that there is a ‘mirror neuron’ in the brain that activates the neurology responsible for the recognition of facial expressions and is the cause of an instantaneous and unconscious mirror reaction. In other words, whether we realize it or not, we very often unconsciously mirror the facial expressions that we see.

So if you smile a true, genuine smile more often (the people around you are smiling more genuinely), that means they feel good around you. You are creating a better immediate environment for yourself and those around you. How do you feel if you are walking down the street and you see someone with one of those deeply unhappy or crossed faces? Science has shown that the more you smile, the more positive reactions people give you.

Do you laugh more if you watch a funny movie with friends or alone? Robert Provine found that laughter was more than 30 times more likely to occur in people in a social setting than when they were alone. He found that laughter has less to do with jokes and funny stories and more to do with relationship building. Laughter creates a bond.

When you smile (a genuine smile) at another person, you almost always return the smile with a genuine smile of your own, which leads to real positive feelings in both you and them; for cause and effect. Create a wellness cycle: you smile and they feel good, they smile back and you feel good and so on.

Studies show that most encounters go smoothly, last longer, have more positive results, and dramatically improve relationships when you strive to smile and laugh regularly to the point where it becomes a habit. I guess you already knew all this, but you really are smiling so much. Recent research suggests we smiled 400% more when we were kids – how often do you genuinely smile at the world today?

2- Confidence – Something that I obviously lacked when I was younger; shamefully replying to the newspaper receptionist.

I remember seeing a documentary about a murdered schoolgirl in the UK. The girl’s parents gave a press conference to ask for help to catch the murderer. It was the downfall of the assassins. The way the father communicated during this press conference led the police to suspect him and investigate him further to finally obtain evidence that he killed his own daughter.

Many criminals are caught not because the clues point them, but because they act guilty, shy, and lack confidence. These feelings communicate enough to arouse suspicion.

When we are congruent and, more importantly, internally confident, our body language becomes confident and this is communicated to the world.

Psychologists tell us that we can change our attitudes by changing our physical actions. So adopting the physiology of confidence can help you appear and be more confident. Think about how you hold your body when you are confident and hold it that way more often; cause and effect means that holding your body in this way will also make you feel more confident.

I remember reading David Schwart’s brilliant book “The Magic of Thinking Big” a while ago and he gave me 3 brilliant tactics to improve confidence with just your body:

First of all, it recommended being a ‘front seat’. Whenever you go to theaters, classrooms, meetings, or presentations, the back lines always seem to fill up faster, don’t they? Most people go to the back so as not to be too conspicuous and this often shows a lack of confidence in that person. Start sitting up front today, comfortable in the sight of others, and build the confidence of being there.

Second, making good natural eye contact tells you a lot about confidence. If someone avoids eye contact, we can begin to wonder what is wrong with him or what he has to hide; maybe even withholding something. Lack of eye contact can suggest that the person feels weak next to you or is afraid of you in some way. Conquer this and look the person in the eye, you don’t have to stare! Just look into their eyes long enough to tell them that you believe in yourself, that you are honest, open, confident, and comfortable with who you are.

When you seem confident and believe in yourself, the other person tends to unconsciously agree with that opinion that there is something worth knowing about you; If you don’t have confidence in yourself or feel good about yourself, why should someone else be? This is unconsciously communicated beyond conscious awareness, often with those wise “gut feelings.”

The other great advice David Schwartz gave is to walk 25 percent faster. I know that when they took me to football games to see my beloved Nottingham Forest when I was young, my dad would always tell me to slow down, because he was so excited and excited about my destiny.

Psychologists associate sloppy postures and slow walking with unpleasant attitudes toward oneself, work, and the people around us. But psychologists also tell us that you can change your attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement. The action of the body is the result of the action of the mind, and vice versa, as I have already said; cause and effect! The person with low morale shuffles along and literally staggers through life with little confidence. In the same way, average people have an average walk. You can see it and feel it.

Self-confident people move deliberately, have an important place to go, and will be successful when they get there. Open your chest, throw your shoulders back, lift your head up, be proud of who you are, move a little faster and feel your confidence grow. It doesn’t have to be dramatic, just hold your body confidently.

3- The right side of the brain: most people are right-handed and, as such, they have all the emotional aspects of their experiences and their life stored in the right side of their brain and the motor responses and practical use of the brain exists within the left side. side of your brain.

Evolutionary psychologists debate this, most tend to believe that we all have six basic emotions. Everything else is a derivative of those. Those six core emotions are: Happiness. Surprise. Disgust. Fear. Go to. Sadness.

What’s worth noting here is that only two of them are considered really good. If we’re honest with ourselves, only one is guaranteed to be good, isn’t it? With April Fool’s Day ending, it reminds me how much I ‘enjoy’ the surprise!

The vast majority of our emotions stored in our brain are unpleasant in some way. It’s true, bad things tend to stand out in our minds much more than good things.

So if you’re going to respond to anyone’s right brain, you could unconsciously associate with all those emotions stored in the right brain. You don’t want to do that.

To use this information to help you in life then, when you meet someone for the first time; position yourself so they have to look slightly to the right to look at you. Look into your right eye when you shake your hand. I believe in this to such an extent that my photo is on the right side of the page of my websites, in my consulting rooms I place my chair in such a way that my clients have to look slightly to the right when we communicate and so on. .

Therefore, there are three powerful things to consider when it comes to improving your levels of success and achievement without opening your mouth.

Notice how when she smiles genuinely and enthusiastically; When you behave with confidence and resonate with the right parts of the brain, you begin to resonate with the whole world in a much, much more progressive way.

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